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After a While

After a while poem, jorge luis borges, veronica shoffstall

After a While by Jorge Luis Borges is my favorite poem of all time. He was the original author. Later, Veronica Shoffstall added a stanza and copyrighted it. You will gain new insight every time you read it. Soak in it’s wisdom and share in the comments what you’ve learned. Enjoy!

AFTER A WHILE
By Jorge Luis Borges

(revised and copyrighted by Veronica Shoffstall)

 

After a while you learn the subtle difference
Between holding a hand and chaining a soul,

And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning
And company doesn’t mean security,

And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts
And presents aren’t promises

And you begin to accept your defeats
With your head up and your eyes open,

With the grace of a woman,
Not the grief of a child

And you learn to build all your roads on today,
Because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans
and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.

After a while you learn that even sunshine
Burns if you get too much

So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul,
Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers

And you learn that you really can endure…
that you really are strong
and you really do have worth,
and you learn and learn…
With every goodbye you learn.

 

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This reminds me of raising my adversity quotient. Here's an article on how to raise your own adversity quotient.

 

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