“Well, your credit says you owe $1.4 million.” Natalie Jill’s lowest point in life went down like this:
I caught this glimpse of myself just really out of shape and it was the first time I didn’t even recognize who I was. I remember going to the gas station and I went to put my credit card in the machine to pump gas and it was declined. That never happened to me in my life and I’ll never forget….I’d never been late ever, and they declined it. I called them from my car and said “Why is my credit card declined?” And then they said “Well, your credit says you owe $1.4 million.” And I just thought, “Oh my God”, I couldn’t even breathe!
Now, Natalie Jill lives the life of her dreams….a life that she has designed….and runs a business that helps others.
Natalie Jill Designs Her Own Life
Natalie Jill was living what everyone else thought was the American dream. She was married, had a great corporate job, living in a beautiful neighborhood, had two dogs and was pregnant with her daughter. It looked like the perfect life. The dream disappeared when her marriage fell apart, the stock market crashed, and her finances spiraled out of control. She realized that she was not living the life that she really wanted.
At her rock bottom, Natalie decided to start figuring out who she was and live authentically. She spent her life before that point pretending to be somebody, to fit in, to be perfect.
It was only when she finally became vulnerable, asked for help, and admitted that she wasn’t perfect that her life started to fall into place. She started with a vision board, then Facebook posts, and ultimately grew a huge community of followers. In the meantime, she built a life by design.
Her advice for someone also hitting rock bottom?
“Rock bottom is not a bad place. It’s actually a new beginning….it’s the perfect place to rebuild and I wholeheartedly believe that. It may not make sense right now, but it will later.“
Natalie Jill said she could have blamed a million things on her failures, but that wasn’t going to help change her life. She had to take ownership in what she did to get herself there. She doesn’t judge people’s situations because anyone can hit rock bottom.
Take Home Message:
- Authenticity – If you live authentically, you don’t have to lie, or worry about how other people view you. You just be the best version of you that you can. It’s freeing and addictive once you start to live your truth.
- Accountability – You just can’t be a victim and have victim mentality or nothing will change. The first true step is to be accountable and recognize your role and how you got to where you are. When something goes wrong, don’t blame others. Ask what was your role in that.
Lifestory Toolkit: Discover Your Life Theme
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This episode’s Lifestory Toolkit features an activity. If you have a transformation to make, or would like to discover your life stories, the place to begin is with your life theme. You definitely have a story to tell, but it may NOT be the one you think. Here’s an exercise you can do. Get out a pencil and paper, or start a document on your computer and label it Landmarks.
Think back through your life, and make a list of landmarks that you’ve had in your life (could be both good and bad). You can start with “I was born…” and then make a list of 15 to 20 if you can. Things that were important turning points, that affected you, that were pivotal to your life. Now, make a list of conflicts you’ve had in your life…such as kids vs career, money vs. spirituality. And finally, make a third list – a list of the desires you’ve had in your life. These may be things like, the desire to be recognized, the desire for a spouse…anything you have longed for and either already have or haven’t yet received it.
When you’re ready, compare the lists. Are there commonalities between them? Do you see crossovers? There’s your life theme…at least one of them. That’s where you start writing your story. This exercise profoundly affected me when I discovered my life theme. I didn’t like it, but I wrote about it. And because I became aware of it, I was able to change my life theme. Click below to see the results of my life theme discovery.
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About: Natalie Jill
Natalie Jill helps people across the globe reach their health, fitness, and business goals. Natalie left a very successful career in corporate America to follow her passion with health and fitness. As a Licensed Master Sports Nutritionist and functional fitness trainer, Natalie Jill leveraged the power of the internet and social media and in a short amount of time she was able to help millions of people worldwide get in shape and be their best selves. In the process, she created a globally recognized brand with over a million social media followers worldwide and created an online business that has generated over 7-figures in revenue! Although many see Natalie Jill as a fitness and nutrition expert, she is increasingly garnering attention for her ability to help others create, define, and monetize their brand in the online space. In health & fitness, or in business; Natalie Jill brings out the BEST in everybody she works with and helps them GET RESULTS!